I was told recently that someone thinks I have a “perfect” life. My initial reaction was “my life is far from perfect.” In my mind the perfect life has a husband who is always home and able to play with the boys and help around the house; not having to worry about paying the bills, having a maid come clean our house and a chef cook our food! I didn’t have any of that, my life is not perfect. Believe it or not, that was a hard thing for to hear for some reason.
Our boys only get 6 hours a week if they’re lucky with my husband because he works 7 days a week to support our family. I rarely get to go out without the boys (which I love, don’t take it the wrong way) but sometimes mommy needs a night out! We live pay check to pay check because we made the decision that it was best for me to stay at home. My house is always a mess and I struggle to keep it clean and picked up. How could someone think that this is perfect?!
I couldn’t stop thinking about that comment. The more that I thought about it, the more I realized that I was thinking about it all wrong. I needed to change my frame of mind and stop thinking so negatively. My life IS perfect! We have 3 healthy, funny, crazy boys who keep us on our toes and give us all the love in the world. Our 8 year old is amazing, yes, he’s a typical 8 year old who argues and drives us crazy sometimes but he’s always there to help me when I need it. I have an amazing husband who works his life away, not for himself, but for our family. I’m lucky enough to have a lot of family & friends near us, so when I’m in a pinch there’s usually someone who’s able to help out. I’m fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with our boys… I need to remember how big of a deal this is; there are so many mothers out there who would love for nothing else but to be able to be with their children all day long. Yes, my house is always a mess and yes, I’m probably always going to struggle with it, but if that’s the worst of my problems I’m ok with it!
I’ve realized that I need to stop thinking about the negative things in my life and focus on the positive. I need to remember that my life IS perfect. I need to appreciate all of the good in my life and remember that the bad just makes me stronger. The next time that someone says “your life is perfect,” my response will be “Thank you… yes it is.”